What I have learned from my dad

My father is a good decision-maker and an optimist. He has taught me these qualities through his example as well as his words. Through the years, I have seen my dad have to make difficult decisions, and I have often asked for his help when I have a tough decision to make. One strategy he has taught me is to write down a list of the pros (benefits or advantages) and cons (drawbacks or disadvantages) of each outcome of my decision. Often, seeing the options in writing helps me make my decision. Then, after I make my decision, as my father has advised, I focus on those pros and move forward with my decision. I think being able to not second-guess or not regret my decision ties into being an optimist. By focusing on the benefits, I look at the “bright side.” Being an optimist also is helpful when I have a bad day. My dad has encouraged me to focus on something good that happened that day instead of the bad things that could get me down. Some good things I like to remember on bad days are to notice when the weather is beautiful, to be grateful for a good parking spot, or to be thankful for my family and my health. When I think about these good things, I don’t feel so down about the bad things. My dad is a great teacher, and in these two points—decision-making and optimism—he has greatly impacted my life.